I’m a privileged white feminist. I write about lady issues because they’re interesting to me and because not enough free-market types are doing it. And when they do it, they do it super badly. Honestly, I think racism is a much bigger issue than sexism in America right now, but I don’t write about it much because I don’t feel qualified to speak on it as a privileged white feminist.
I believe sexism in America is still primarily targeted at women. However, that doesn’t mean I don’t think American men still have legitimate, male-specific grievances. So, here are the top 5, according to me.
Girls really don’t need to worry about being creepy. I feel bad when I recoil in fear when a man comes on a little too strong. It’s not fair that because other men violate boundaries and get violent, I’m going to back away when a harmless-but-socially-unaware man gets just a little out of line.
4. Custody/Child Support
The only reliable way to prevent a pregnancy as a man is to get snipped or use a condom. Not using a condom means trusting fully a woman to use birth control correctly or get an abortion, something women routinely lie/change their minds/are ignorant about. Those aren’t really good options. And once a woman gets pregnant, if she keeps it, a man is legally forced to pay out his nose for 18+ years. Did you know that in many states, a judge is legally allowed to confiscate a man’s earnings up to what will put him below the poverty line? In New York state, he’s on the hook for college too. Not cool.
3. Affirmative Action/Quotas
Reverse discrimination is still discrimination.
2. Gendered Expectations
Hearing their whole lives that women are bad at certain things and belong in the home makes it harder for women to succeed at work and in male-dominated fields. But it might be even harder for men to fully embrace and succeed at female-dominated fields, and, perhaps more importantly, in the home, when they hear their whole lives that doing so makes them un-manly. Sure, women are pressured to be feminine. But the taboo of a woman acting like a man is much, much less than the taboo of a man acting like a woman. That’s due to patriarchy telling society that women and womanliness are lesser than men and manliness. But it still sucks for those men who aspire to raise their kids and make a house a home.
1. A Transitioning Economy
This is related to grievance number two. It’s actually a really complicated issue. It starts with the fact that compulsory, assembly-line, one-size-fits-all K-12 education in America really screws boys, worse than it screws girls. That’s part of why women are now earning more degrees than men.
Time was, a man could work and provide for his family without a college degree. That’s no longer the case, due to degree inflation and America’s transition from an agriculture and manufacturing economy to an information and service economy.
Uneducated men are screwed. And the expectation that they will provide financially for their families only screws them further.
So there you have it. Let no one say I hate or don’t care about men. The charge is especially hilarious considering that anyone could tell you (especially my poor father) that I’ve always been absolutely crazy about men. A little too crazy.
Now back to our regularly scheduled programming.